“Falling In Love”
The other day I went to the movies with a friend of mine. We went to see the movie called Her. I totally disliked it because it was a dark reminder of where our society is going, me included! The movie is about a man that falls in love with his computer's personality. He feels attached and understood by his computer which talks to him. The computer keeps him company in his moments of loneliness and the computer is there whenever he needs it to be. It's a whole new kind of romantic affair that is completely impersonal. So disturbing. (And yet it is still unrequited love!)
A few days later, I went to an accessory show in Dallas. In the building we were all walking around but instead of looking up and acknowledging one another, we were all looking at and engaging with our cellphones. It reminded me of the movie I had just seen! Although we might be engaging with real people, it's via text, msn, instant messaging, etc… so we don't actually hear the person we're communicating with. We're once removed in a sense, making the communication easier, more free.
I decided to amuse myself by watching people's expressions while they were glued to their phones and I would guess what they were reading on their cellphone! One woman's face was all contorted and I imagined her husband was telling her he was leaving her for a twenty year old man! While I was watching everyone else, it reminded me I had to check all of my own social network sites, Instagram, Twitter, Whatsupp etc. I sent my daughter and brother an e-mail with news, updates, and gossip about the market. My brother responded with a “Good, see you when you come back.” When I read that I rolled my eyes and thought, “had to be a man.” Later, My daughter responded with more emotion like, “Oh, WOW, really? Why? How come?”... of course she had to be a woman.
That's the other thing: We want sometimes our text or email interactions to be more fulfilling than they are. We want people to take time to really lay out the info, the emotion...when truly the these methods of communication should serve only as a moment of communicating, when going to the phone is not possible. Right ???
I caught myself in this electronic communication crisis and I decided that for the next hour I wasn't going to check my messages. I would focus on Market. But then I felt my cellphone vibrating and I found myself shaking like an addict not being able to check my phone. The days goes on, and I go to dinner to a restaurant bar, and not just to eat but to figure out a way to not check my phone every five minutes. The place was full of reps and buyers. They would sip their drink and discretely check their phones. I sat there having my dinner and thinking back at the movie. If I'm going to end up just like the main character falling in love with my electronics, the only difference between us it would be that I would end up speaking in Spanish!
P.S. If you have any suggestions on how not be so addicted to my phone let me know!