Date Night—Part 2
As I leave to meet my date, I know I’m horribly late. I don’t have a key holder at the store so I need to stay until the very end. And unfortunately, we still have to…CountTheMoneyPutShoesAwayTurnOffLightsTurnOnOtherLightsCloseUpstairsSetTheAlarmRunReports AND THEN FINALLY we can leave!
By the time I get to the restaurant, HE ISN’T THERE! Oh dang, I think I am half an hour late. BUT, I had sent him a text to let him know that I was tied up at my store. I guess I may have offended him that I was late because he chose not to wait. Although I’m feeling a little stunned, I remember that my friend who is a rep for Camper is having dinner at La Taberna, so, I click my heels like Dorothy and head over.
As I’m walking over I can’t help but think about how silly it is the date decided not to wait for me. Okay, in all honesty I was disappointed that he didn’t wait for me. Did he not think my work was important enough that it merited my attention before I headed over for our date? I wasn’t saying our date was unimportant because I obviously checked in with him first to make sure it was alright.
I can’t help but wonder if I would have been bothered if he had been late because of his work… would I have waited for him? Of course I would have! Why? Because when there’s business to take care of, you do it! I would have accepted that, and I would have waited.
I felt like it wasn’t so much a question about whether I had offended him by being late, but more that he wasn’t willing to be with a woman whose profession was important to her. This is something that is acceptable for a man: he can put his business/work before his personal life, but a woman cannot…
ANYWAY, as soon as I get to La Taberna where Michelle is graciously waiting for me, the disappointment of missing my date starts fading away. The people from La Taberna spoil me, like always! My friend Michelle and I sit down at the community table. There’s good music, plenty of other people to talk to, and we have a ball! No date, but lots of fun had regardless!
I’d like to open what I call my Mexican Box (instead of Pandora’s Box!):
I have a question for you all, my readers:
Is it just as acceptable for a woman to be late if she’s conducting business as it is for a man? Tell me your thoughts.
I actually went on a mission to find out what my friends think about this question.
Abir (Spin Instructor) – She believes that although we have advanced in this modern thinking, society is still more accepting of men and less of women in this situation.
Andrew (Banker) – He believes that there’s not a difference at all. Gender is a non-issue. There simply should be an understanding and communication between the two parties.
Michael (Officer in a title company)—He 100% agrees with Andrew. Either gender, it’s not an issue for him.
Heather (Sales Associate/NAU student)—She says that late is late. The amount of tolerance or acceptance should, and often does, depend on each person individually. However, there is less tolerance or respect for a woman if she makes her business a priority.
Camilo (4th grader)—He says that it’s exactly the same. There’s no difference between men and women, since the woman is making a living and it is important.
Raul (Graphic Designer)—He thinks there is no difference, if either party is late, as long as it is communicated it should be fine.
John (Lawyer)—When I asked him this he LAUGHED and said, “Women belong in the kitchen!!!” He was being sarcastic but he did confess that the expectation is for women to be at home, tending to the kids and really, society still wants that though they try to break away from it. So he feels that there is less tolerance for a woman to be late due to her work.
Adriana (Sales)—She believes that there is not so much a lack of tolerance for a woman to be late due to her work but that her work, no matter what level her position, is never deemed as important as a man’s job/work/profession. So if she is late continuously because of her work, it would become less acceptable to her family and to her companion, it is thought that she doesn’t know how to prioritize etc… but if a man is continuously late because of work commitments it would simply be understood as “Oh, he’s really professional, always putting his job first!”
Adela (Lawyer)—She believes that there is less tolerance for sure. She points out that the sexism is still rampant when you see that women and men are not paid the same even when doing the same job, with the same qualifications.
My conclusion after my petite survey is that though men completely agree that there is not a difference, the interesting thing I find is that women don’t think so. Is it perhaps that we come from years and years of being expected to be at home or it could be because men often think their careers are more important? No doubt that this is not a black and white topic in that there are always exceptions. Also, it’s one thing that comes out of our mouths and another with how we behave.
P.S. I’VE BEEN HAVING ENOUGH DATES TO WEAR MY UNITED NUDE BOOTS, BUT CUPID HASN’T KNOCKED ON MY DOOR…YET! ☺